Funerals & Unveilings

"In death, we honor the life lived, and in gathering for an unveiling, we honor the love that continues to live in our hearts."

(Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, z”l)

Honoring our dearly departed is the highest mitzvah... one that can never be repaid.

Support and guidance following the death of a loved one is critical to healing. I am able to help you navigate the practical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of a Jewish funeral and/or unveiling.

How to Prepare:

Don't let the weight of grief catch you off guard when a loved one passes away. As with all things in life, the better prepared we are for death, the better equipped we will be to deal with the many stressors that accompany this difficult time.

Questions You Should Ask Now:

1) Burial or Cremation?

Judaism allows for both, although burial of a body has typically gained favor for a variety of reasons. Nonetheless, either option exists and you should discuss which is best for your circumstances, beliefs, and concerns.

If you choose burial, you might try to locate a cemetery that fits your criteria and arrange for the purchase of the number of plots you will want to have together. Buying cemetery plots is a legal transfer of deeded land.

2) Where will the ritual take place?

Whether you choose to hold the service in a temple (most congregations require membership), a mortuary chapel, at the graveside, a private home, or somewhere else, make sure you consult with a local funeral home to learn of any legal restrictions regarding the care of the deceased.

If you are planning a “Celebration of Life” for a loved one who has been cremated, there are many additional options that might not be possible when a casket would be present. Discuss with your funeral director or your rabbi to find the best options for your circumstances.

3) Call me.

When the news of a loved one's passing comes, reaching out to a Rabbi is like extending a hand in the darkness. I will be there to guide you through this difficult journey, helping you find solace in your faith among family and friends.

I welcome the opportunity to help you navigate through the challenges of grief. However, if you would like me to be present for your loved one’s funeral service, please be sure to connect with me before scheduling the date, time, and location to ensure my availability.

PLANNING:

For a Funeral

1) We will meet to discuss your preferences, answer any questions you may have, and offer support during this difficult time.

2) I will work with you to create a personalized funeral service that honors the life and legacy of your loved one, respecting modern Jewish customs and traditions.

3) I will lead the funeral service with compassion and dignity, ensuring that it is a meaningful and comforting experience for all who knew and loved them.

For an Unveiling

The unveiling ceremony is a continuation of our remembrance, a moment to gather at the gravesite to reveal the headstone and pay tribute to the departed soul.

Throughout the unveiling ritual, I will create a space for reflection, connection, and shared support as you move forward with your cherished memories.

I am available to assist with word selection, Hebrew-lettering engraving charts, and all other aspects of the unveiling planning process.

I am available to discuss many delicate issues that are part of the death/mourning process, including:

  • Finding the right funeral home

  • Balancing tradition with practicality

  • Selecting the right casket for you

  • Who are the mourners?

  • Ways of honoring the deceased

  • Prayers & Readings

  • The closed casket

  • Death of a child

  • Choosing pallbearers

  • Mourning Ribbons (K’riah)

  • Learning the Mourner's Kaddish

  • Do we need to fill the grave?

  • Should children attend the funeral?

  • Shiva: Yes? No? How long?

  • The Meal of Condolence

In moments of loss, remember that you are not alone. Together, we can navigate this path of grief with understanding, compassion, strength, and grace.